After reading “Practical Version of GRIT: Get the Power to Do It Right,” I wondered what causes people to have low GRIT? I have been thinking about this question.
GRIT is the ability to take positive risks and change your life for the better
People with low GRIT are unable to overcome difficulties and are less likely to achieve great success without the ability to accomplish anything.
I used to think that people who did not have the ability to persevere and who had low GRIT were “unmotivated lazy people.
However, when I read “Practical Version of GRIT: Get the Power to Do It Right,” I learned that some people have low grit due to the influence of their parents and others around them.
Causes of low grit
helicopter parent
In the case of children, parental influence is the cause of low grit.
Especially bad for a child’s grit is the existence of “helicopter parents”.
A helicopter parent is a parent who watches over the child from the sky to make sure the child is safe. They remove challenges and obstacles in advance that the child may trip over.
A child deprived of challenges will have no competition or suffering in his or her life, only inflated self-esteem.
He wrote that they then become adults who mistakenly believe that they are the ones who should be protected and turn those who give them challenges and difficulties into perpetrators.
Read this, and you’ll see that the school’s goal is to finish hand in hand in the footrace, and that everyone gets a high grade on the report card.
（It reminded me of the recent trend of thoroughly eliminating competition from children (perhaps for fear of parental pandering or complaints).
praise to excess
If your child’s grades are bad, it will affect his/her chances of getting into school, so give them good grades! Some schools grade inappropriately in response to monster parents who say, “If your child gets a bad grade, it will affect his/her higher education!
Children who are given unfair favorable grades know that they do not deserve to get good grades.
Praise inflation does not motivate.
Motivation comes naturally when high goals and the right feedback are the only way to know where you are now and what you lack to reach your goals.
partial reinforcement elimination effect
When a reward is given for doing nothing, a response called the “partial reinforcement elimination effect” occurs in the brain, and GRIT goes down quickly.
In an experiment with rats, it seems that if you give them a reward (food) even if they can’t clear the maze or don’t move at all, they will just sit still when they want the reward.
The next thing he knew, the rat was stuck on the floor and grew fatter and fatter.
This response seems to be recognized in humans as well.
In other words, a person who accomplishes nothing but receives food and money becomes a person who is not motivated to do anything.
Children of Helicopter Parents Play the Victim
A child who has had problems that might happen to him or her removed in advance will grow up with the mistaken belief that he or she is a special person who needs to be protected.
However, things often go wrong in life.
They become adults who reject anything they don’t know or understand. They will treat the person who imposed the assignment as the perpetrator.
They believe that they are the ones who continue to be protected as injured victims.
I feel that more and more adults in today’s society have the mistaken impression that they are special.
I am not comfortable unless I am the protagonist, I am not comfortable unless I am the center of attention.
I do not feel that we are becoming a society with many adults who have such over-inflated narcissism.
summary
This was my impression after reading Chapter 2 of “Practical GRIT: Get the Power to Do It Right”.
When I was a child, I don’t think there were that many overprotective parents, but recently I have the impression that the number of overprotective/overcooperative parents has increased.
(Maybe it’s because I’m an adult now and can see what’s going on around me.)
The most impressive of all was the experiment on rats that were fed and unable to do anything.
When I was a NEET, it was exactly like this, they gave me a good meal for nothing, a small amount of money but an allowance, and I had no motivation to make a life for myself.
I have managed to resume work and become independent, but I shudder to think what would have happened if I had not yet left my parents’ home.
The biggest takeaways from Chapter 2 of ”Practical Version of GRIT: Get the Power to Do It Right,”
I was able to reaffirm that growth lies in the process of meeting challenges and trying to break through them.
I am reminded once again that my current life of freedom is possible thanks to the intense effort and thought that I have put into it in the past.
If you are working individually, you must set your own assignments.
At times I struggled with the challenge and despaired of the height of the walls.
Without giving myself too much credit, I wanted to grow myself by repeatedly setting high goals and receiving honest feedback.
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